One of my favourite quotes comes from Edna, the crazy superhero suit designer from The Incredibles. She says, “I never look back, darling! It distracts from the now.”
It’s true that everyone says you should never look back and you should never regret but sometimes you just can’t help it. As many of you know or have read on my about me page, after I graduated high school I moved to Vancouver to pursue my dream of becoming a fashion designer. After two semesters in and months of questioning my decision, I decided to move back home and attend University where I am now studying to complete an Arts degree.
The vast majority of the time I am completely happy with my decision and I am focused on my future endeavors and despite missing the friends I had made during my stay on the West Coast and my sewing classes, I don’t miss much about it. Still, there is the odd time that something gets set off in the mysterious object called my brain and I wonder “what if?”
Over the years I have come to the conclusion that the question “what if?” is the worst possible thing that you could ever, ever, ever ask yourself. I usually try not to dwell on the past but it’s so frustrating to me because I know that if I would have finished my diploma in fashion design, I would be asking myself, “What if I would have gone back home and gone to University?” The absolute worst part is there’s always two paths to take at a crossroads and you don’t get to see the outcome of both of them.
I know that I made the right decision because when I ask myself if I would do it over again, my answer is always that I would. I don’t regret going to try it and I don’t regret leaving it. I guess sometimes I just like to torture myself and wonder where I would be right now if I had finished.
What would our lives be like if we could look down both roads and see the end? Would we still make the same decisions if we knew what if?
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